I’m back! I’m coming with a topic I hope is helpful and a bit lighter this week. Winter is approaching, and I wanted to upload a feel good post. Yes, it will be “feel good” but I’ll also be addressing some very real topics that we often avoid in the black community.
Those topics are depression and anxiety.
I know… I said today’s topic would be lighter and it will be. Just stick with me. I’m going to give a brief overview and then we’ll get into some fun and relaxing coping methods.
Since forever mental health has been a hush-hush subject in African American culture. Our culture is deeply rooted in Christian doctrine which tells us to look to God to solve all of our problems and that mental illness is either an attack on the mind from the Satan or that mental illness was a social construct created by secular doctors and psychiatrists. Though all black people in America aren’t Christian, African American culture itself is built upon it. Because of this, we don’t address mental health issues and continue to suffer from it either in silence or denial.
Institutionalized racism itself is a lot to deal with and affects our psyche whether we admit it or not. Many black men are suffering from the trauma of having their families broken and fathers either dead or in prison. Black men are suffering from the incredibly difficult task of succeeding in America and being seen as equal. Black women are suffering from the weight of watching their children and men killed in cold blood, broken homes, anti blackness from both whites and black men, and the patriarchal society we live in. We definitely suffer from mental illness directly caused by our everyday environment and stressors but somehow we refuse to acknowledge it… Why?
- Black people are more likely to have feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and worthlessness than white people.
- Black teenagers are more likely to attempt suicide than white teenagers
However,
- 63 percent of African Americans believe that depression is a personal weakness
And,
- 40 percent of the barriers to treatment of depression is denial
- 38 percent of the barriers to treatment is shame
Like, WHAT? This has got to stop. Mental health issues are just as real and important as physical health issues. Mental hygiene is JUST as important as physical hygiene. Repeat to yourself ” My mental health is important!”. Marinate on it. Get it through your brain. You are not weak if you suffer from depression. You are not weak if you suffer from anxiety. You are not weak if you suffer from any sort of mental disorder…But what you are is ignorant if you decide to ignore it.
Alright, enough with the tough love. I want to provide you all with some awesome videos featuring black people talking about mental health and mental hygiene. These are the very videos that pushed me to address my own anxiety issues and seek out methods to cope with it.
Video from Beauty and Fashion Youtuber “Its My Raye Raye”
Nikisha Brunson, Food and Lifestyle blogger of Urban Bush Babes, speaks out about her mental health issues
Popular Natural Hair Youtuber Hey Fran Hey discusses the importance of mental an emotional hygiene
A weekly podcast I listen to that discusses everyday issues and is geared towards mental hygiene
These are just a few things that helped me become more comfortable discussing my own mental health and I hope they help you as well. If you have any spare time or a long commute on Wednesdays, The Friend Zone Podcast on souncloud is an amazing thing to listen to. It’ll brighten your day with humor and you’ll finish the show with great life advice and helpful health tips.
Lastly, I want to leave you all with a few tips that I use to reduce anxiety and help me relax.
- Journaling: If I’ve had a long and somewhat overwhelming day or week, I’ll take a moment to write down what happened and how I feel about it. It’s sort of like unloading but on your journal instead of another person. This helps me get my thoughts and feelings down so they aren’t so heavy on my mind.
- Sunday Pamper Day: Although I don’t use my entire Sunday to pamper myself, I always like to cut out a few hours just to relax and do things I enjoy that cater to me. On Sundays I may take a long bath, read a book, meditate, try a new face mask, deep condition my hair, or make tea and pastries (or I may do all of the above if I’m feeling fancy). I think it’s very important to take time to unwind, focus less on the future, and just be in the present. Typically after a few hours of relaxing on Sunday, I am re energized and ready to tackle Monday head on.
- Planning: I keep a planner handy to write all my important to do’s and deadlines in. This reduces my anxiety because the thoughts of everything I need to do are no longer clouding my mind because I’ve written it down and I know when I’m going to get it done.
I really hope this post has been helpful and remember, there’s nothing wrong with taking your mental health and hygiene seriously. Make time to evaluate and address your mental health. If you feel you may need more help than you can provide yourself, don’t hesitate to speak to whomever you may feel comfortable speaking with whether that be a school counselor, a teacher, your physician, parents, or friends. Just say something. I promise it’s not just you or as rare as you think it is.
Shout out to you all who read to the end! Talk to you soon!